My baby girl, Jennie, is the spitting image of her dad, Jake (my boyfriend of nearly 8 years). Everyone who meets her says so. And I have a confession to make- I get jealous. I thought that our daughter would be a 50/50 blend of both of us- maybe my green eyes with his red hair. Or my ears with his big feet. But the only thing she got from me is her love of country music. It's so strange looking at her sometimes because I try to picture her 10 years down the road and all I can see is Jake with pigtails.
I say I get jealous because there is bond Jake has with her I never will. Just looking like each other shows a connection, and I don't have that with Jennie. I had a 3-D ultrasound done at 6 months pregnant, and even then we all knew she would look like him because she had the same nose, scowl, everything and the special bond started right then. And so did my jealousy. It's not anything I can resent either of them for, and never will. The same thing that makes me jealous also makes me smile- she will always be Daddy's girl.
So I plan on strengthening my bond with Jennie through Luke Bryan. Lots of Luke Bryan which I won't complain about...he is 2nd on my "list" after all ;) Hopefully he is still shakin' it on tour 5 years down the road. When I was pregnant with Jennie, I went to 2 Jason Aldean concerts, and she didn't move a bit during either of those shows. I went to a Luke Bryan concert, and I felt like I had 8 babies inside me that night- she didn't stop moving the WHOLE show...maybe one day I'll be able to take her to a Luke concert. I guess Jake can come too- but Jennie and I will have more fun than he will, I can guarantee that :)
I say I get jealous because there is bond Jake has with her I never will. Just looking like each other shows a connection, and I don't have that with Jennie. I had a 3-D ultrasound done at 6 months pregnant, and even then we all knew she would look like him because she had the same nose, scowl, everything and the special bond started right then. And so did my jealousy. It's not anything I can resent either of them for, and never will. The same thing that makes me jealous also makes me smile- she will always be Daddy's girl.
So I plan on strengthening my bond with Jennie through Luke Bryan. Lots of Luke Bryan which I won't complain about...he is 2nd on my "list" after all ;) Hopefully he is still shakin' it on tour 5 years down the road. When I was pregnant with Jennie, I went to 2 Jason Aldean concerts, and she didn't move a bit during either of those shows. I went to a Luke Bryan concert, and I felt like I had 8 babies inside me that night- she didn't stop moving the WHOLE show...maybe one day I'll be able to take her to a Luke concert. I guess Jake can come too- but Jennie and I will have more fun than he will, I can guarantee that :)
I feel your pain. Although I have two kids and neither one of them looks like me OR my husband. Not sure where that comes from...
ReplyDeleteI love your honesty in this post! My twin 3 year old look NOTHING like me, at all! At first it made me a little sad. But not to let myself worry I said they will someday...They still don't but they are super crazy cute so I am okay with it. I love that you are already thinking of way to connect though, that is soooo sweet! And always so important.
ReplyDeleteThings can still change though as she gets older...maybe?! I do think that girls get more of their Dads, and boys get more of their Moms. That's just my take on it, and what I notice the most. Not always of course;) Here's to your future country music concerts with your daughter!
ReplyDeleteYes, I know exactly what you mean! My son is the spitting image of my husband, so when I had my daughter, I though she would at least have my dark hair. Nope! Blond as both of them.
ReplyDeleteWhen I went to pick him up from school one day with her, one of the nice grandparents who picks up her grandkids was nice enough to say, "They're both yours? Really? How odd."
She is still little, you really don't know. My niece looked like my brother-in-law for the longest time and now she looks just like my sister. I read once that babies look like their dad's in the beginning from evolutionary times, it protected the woman if the baby looked like her mate. I don't know if it's true but I always thought it was a funny theory. I do like that you are giving her your taste in music!! Very smart mommy!!! Lol!!
ReplyDeleteNeither of mine look like me either and I get jealous too! It's only natural. You're the one who did all of the work! LOL! I bet she'll act like you. :) Not Your Ordinary Agent
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My gene pool was dominant looks wise. Their personalities though, a whole different story.
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Dont lose hope! Look at us Haas girls, my mom had 4 girls, 3 the spitting image of her husband before she had me, who looks quite a bit like her! So don't lose hope! All the differences help you appreciate your kid for who they are I think.
ReplyDeleteThere are some things that Daddy just won't be able to do for her-don't worry. She will always be your little girl.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean....but on the other hand, I'm so grateful that my husband is the love of their lives and vica versa. Girls turn out so much happier and stable when they have a good daddy who is involved etc. At the end of the day, they still turn to momma when they fall and skin their knee!
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Don't lose hope yet. I always thought my daughters looked just like their daddy. They both have is gorgeous blue eyes. But I've had more people tell me they are little miniature clones of me. I still don't see it. But other people do and I hear it constantly, from people who meet us for the first time and from people in our family.
ReplyDeleteAlso, how wonderful that she has such a strong bond with her daddy. Girls go through phases though. Some days my girls don't want anything to do with me. They just want to hang out with daddy and other days, they don't want anything to do with him. They just want to be close to me. It happens and it's very normal.
Just try to make sure you have something special between you and your daughter that is comforting to her. For example, one thing my 6yr old and I do is snuggle up and read a devotion together at night. This often leads to quiet one-on-one conversation about things that are important to her, such as friendships, school, her activities, etc... It's an awesome chance for she and I to bond and talk about things she won't talk about with her daddy.
Jillian was the spitting image of Matt when she was born as well and just like you said everybody said she looks just like her daddy. I used to tell people I'd swear she wasn't mine if I hadn't given birth to her. She even has a lot of his personality traits. However, 3 years later she is starting to look more like me and people are commenting on that now. So have hope, she could still end up looking more like you! :) I had to laugh at the Luke Bryan comment, I went to 4 Jason shows when I was pregnant with her and boy was she active at those shows and his CDs were the only ones that would calm her down in the car after she was born!
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